For many, trying countless times is the perfect way of finding love. Few people are lucky to find their true love in just an attempt. The mystery of Love in itself is what makes it so phenomenal. Is Love an emotion? Is Love an act? Or who really knows the correct nature of love?
According to the Christian faith, Love has been shown in its ultimate form. This Love is so profound that, for years and years after it manifestation, no other Love has been able to surpass it by word or deed.
Of course, I make reference to the gift of the Messiah to those that believe in his existence and thus sacrifice. As indicated by believers, the Messiah had been conferred unto the world to teach about Love. By dying, he taught the world a significant lesson about Love.
When one expresses their love for another, such persons should be willing and in fact able to sacrifice heavily for the happiness and establishment of the other. Just like the Messiah had done for the world, one must be willing to lay down his life, literally at the least for another.
How many times have we told our children, our spouses, our partners and yet so our friends that we “loved them”?
How many times have we been asked and encouraged to love those we call our enemies (for todays’ generation, “haters”)? While we are free to express in words our feelings of love, how have we shown those who are at the receiving end of the word form?
Mothers have always had higher vote for being better lovers than fathers. Women have had higher votes for being better lovers than men. The word “vote” is insecurely used to signify mode of judgment as to who is the better lover.
The question however is, who is voting? By what standards are we voting? How exactly are we actively expressing our love?
Years passed, we have heard stories and cases of domestic and spousal abuses. In the same duration however, we have witnessed or at least have heard of marriages been established between two (or more) people in love and willing to accept each other for better and for the worst.
The discourse here is this; how are people in love causing distress to each other to such degree as to be labeled abuse? For the purpose of this piece, abuse is used here to mean just as the law will have it in their books. Why is the divorce rate half the marriage rate? Are people not willing to love again?
They say there is nothing like motherly love, sure! but how often have people witnessed the outrageous manner in which some mothers “discipline” their children? Who is a mother anyway (but, let’s leave that for another time)?
Is it because, your parent might have said it or perhaps you overheard someone else while, before or after taking action on “straightening out” their child? A child is disciplined because they are loved. That usually is the justification associated with such disciplinary actions.
LOVE ever’ – so often we find ourselves trying hard to get the core of what this means. For most Christians, the Bible talks about the right way to Love. What about those with faith other than Christianity? What does the Holy Quran and Hinduism says about Love?
One thing is for sure that most, if not all belief systems associate love with nurturing the positive. Many seemingly agree to Kind, Sweet, Pure and adjectives alike in referring to Love.
What about endurance, tears, hurt, compromise and many others? There seem to be a division on these when they come up. So that during these moments Love happens “when’. Love then comes in with a condition.
One Reverend Kafui Adzoro of Light House Chapel had shared with me and many others that, “We must Love In spite of and not because of”. Oh how i loved this advice.
Let’s refer quickly to the Ultimate Love as spoken of by believers such as myself. The Messiah gave up His life for ALL not PART of our iniquities. However while He gave up His Life for all people, it is said that those who believe in Him and the purpose of His death shall not perish (ref. John 3:16). Does this put condition on this Love also?
We see and hear of instance, where people Love based on certain traits and abilities and in some cases physical possessions. Are such Love wrong?
We can go on, and on, and on and on about Love and its Nature, but really, what does Love mean to you? How do you express your Love? Would you consider yourself a ponder for LOVE and what It should be
Source: Ivy Kurlie Tamakloe/New York/Facebook Name: Fine Kurlie Vine